Letting you know how I really feel.
Feelings are what we use to describe our emotions at any particular time; sad, happy, mad, fearful, joy, and excitement.
The difference between your feelings and fake feelings are the stories we tell ourselves, our friends, and anyone willing to listen to some of our fake feelings.
I describe these feelings as fake because we use them to disguise how we really feel.I also say this from my personal experience.I have used fake feelings to describe certain emotions.
Hiding behind this fake feeling allowed me to be a victim instead of face the real issue. I have seen my partner do the same with me.
I’ve also noticed that most of my core negative feelings stem from fear and ego.
When I am afraid I deal with by taking out it on my partner or those around me, my ego then creates a story or an excuse about why I’m reacting that way.
For example my ego says something like “Hey it’s not your fault you spoke to him like that he’s a jerk he deserves it”. This story continues into a dangerous downward spiral.
Ego is part of each human beings character, and what decides how we each react when “push comes to shove”.
Substituting or replacing our description of our feelings to suit us is a sad and self-destructive thing.
It’s the difference between taking full responsibility for our actions and blaming others.
When I allow fear and my ego to control me, I am using fake feelings.
“When a person knows themselves inside out, they know the way to their heart. They have trust, respect, and love for themselves and those around them; choosing their actions carefully with control and easy.”
What is my plan to combat this issue? First by acknowledging how I truly feel, second noticing why I feel the way I do, and finally deciding if this feeling serves my needs.
Yes I don’t take for granted that things don’t always work out the way we plan, and that at times I’m going to fall short of what I say I will do.
I also know that there is no need to fear.
As long as I’m moving forward in the direction I want, the positive motivating force will take me where I want to go, not just for one day but for the rest of my life.
When a person knows themselves inside out, they know the way to their heart, they have trust, respect, and love for themselves and those around them.
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