Can I trust you?
I often wonder how people develop trust in a relationship, whether it’s a romantic, friendly or work relationship. At what moment do we say ‘OK I can trust this moutherfucker’ (Yes I said Mofo).
The truth is every one is unworthy of our trust until we give them that trust.
For me trust in my personal relationship comes quicker than I want. I’ve noticed that I can feel at easy and trust someone with in a few weeks of knowing them.
As soon as that person lets me down I feel betrayed, hurt, stupid, upset; yes a whole book of emotions comes up but mostly I feel betrayed; as if the other person had signed a contract on how our relationship would go down.
Is it too much to ask ?
Is is too much to ask the other person in the relationship to stick to the unwritten and unspoken contract, I’ve made up in my head ?
I want to agree with myself and say NO it’s not too much to ask. But the truth is YES, it’s too much to ask.
All I can do is be honest with myself and TRUST myself. Trust myself to make mistakes and correct myself, trust that I will do what is right for me.
And maybe just maybe I can start practicing what I preach. If I preach communication, hey I can start using those practices.
Maybe it can go something like this
ME: I want you’re honest opinion and always appreciate it when you come to me first before making a decision that affects me. I trust you and I want to gain your trust.
FRIEND: No problem, I can do that.
Mercedes E. Cruz